About Lorrae Jo
pleasure-rooted. shame-free.
somatic healing + soul embodiment.
for the cycle-breakers, desire-seekers, and soft-hearted rebels
The ones who’ve been told they’re too sensitive, too complicated, too loud, too much. Who ask too many questions, feel too many things, and crave connection that feels like home, but a secure one.
Who’ve lived through heartbreak, quiet grief, numbness, shame, or the ache of wanting more.
I’m Lorrae (she/her), a somatic practitioner, trauma-informed coach, abortion & full-spectrum doula, and fellow soft-hearted rebel here to help you reclaim the parts of yourself that were never broken —the power that’s always been yours.
I’m the guide people call when life cracks them open — grief, desire, rage, rebirth. The raw, sacred thresholds we’re taught to keep quiet about.
Or when the call for more pleasure, embodiment, and connection becomes so loud that it can no longer be ignored.
I’m here to meet you at the raw edge of transformation; the precipice when something deeper is trying to emerge.
My work is about helping you come home to yourself: your body, your boundaries, your voice, your truth. Even — and especially — when it’s messy.
You’re not “too much” — you’re already enough. You just need someone who gets it.
Trauma-informed somatic healing that meets you where you are, and honors what we’re taught to hide.
For over a decade, I’ve supported people through life’s most tender and transformative thresholds: identity shifts, heartbreak, abortion, birth, trauma healing, and everything we’re told to keep quiet about.
I hold space for those building lives beyond the mold. Who are paving their own path in a world that didn’t make space for them — queer, kinky, neurodivergent, polyamorous, chronically ill, sex workers, artists, parents in transition — those who’ve had to create their own maps because the world never handed them one.
somatic, systemic, and deeply personal
I founded Slutty Girl Problems as a way to reclaim sexuality, dismantle shame, name the unspoken, normalize the taboo, and create room for messy, embodied truth.
Since then, I’ve helped thousands of people reconnect with their bodies, rediscover their desires, and regulate their nervous systems to feel safe in their own skin.
I bring tools that are practical, trauma-informed, and grounded in nervous system science for the kind of healing that doesn’t flinch at grief, desire, or truth.
Healing that welcomes your rage, your softness, your mess — the full human experience.
my work blends:
- Somatic healing + relationship coaching to explore desires, set boundaries, and embody your authentic self
- Nervous system + polyvagal tools to support grounding, regulation, and emotional resilience
- Parts work + boundary repair from IFS to heal inner conflict, clarify your needs, and create relationships rooted in compassion and care
- Communication + rupture repair tools for emotionally complex, non-traditional, stuck, or high-conflict relationships
- Shame deconstruction + desire exploration to navigate non-monogamy, kink, & taboo desires, using trauma-informed somatic practices and tools rooted in CBT + DBT
- Full-spectrum doula care + abortion support to smooth your emotional, physical, and spiritual transitions
My Qualifications
Certifications + Training
Psychology + Somatic Support
- B.A. in Psychology, Minor in Women & Gender Studies | Muhlenberg College| focus on sexual identity development
- Rebirthed & Rooted: Somatic Soul Work Certification | Rachel Rae Halder
- Somatic Experiencing Practitioner in Training | Somatic Experiencing International
Birth Work + Doula Care
- Certified Abortion Doula | Colorado Doula Project
- Postpartum Doula in Training | Birthing Advocacy Doula Trainings
- Birth Doula in Training | Birthing from Within, Birth as a Heroic Journey
- Childbirth Educator in Training | Birthing from Within
- Adult & Pediatric First Aid/CPR/AED Certified | American Red Cross
Reproductive Health
- All Options Pregnancy Counseling, Education, and Referrals | Provide Care
- 14 certifications + trainings from Reproductive Health National Training Center:
- Providing Trauma-Informed Care in Family Planning
- Client-Centered Contraceptive Counseling
- Pregnancy Testing and Counseling
- Discussing Reproductive Goals
- Cultural Competency in Family Planning
- Introduction to Reproductive Anatomy and Physiology
- Introduction to Pregnancy and Birth Control Methods
- Contraception Methods and Guidelines for Use
- Support for Achieving a Healthy Pregnancy
- Introduction to STIs
- Sexually Transmitted Infection Services
- Hypertension Prevention and Control in Family Planning
- Reducing Barriers in Access to Care
- Risk Assessment, Education, and Counseling for Men in Reproductive Health
Workshops & Wisdom Building
Pregnancy & Postpartum
- Beyond the Bump: Protecting Your Emotional Health | Birthing the Magic Collaborative
- Structural Racism, Stress & the Mental Load of Black Motherhood | Birthing the Magic Collaborative
- Setting Yourself Up for a Smoother Postpartum Journey | Postpartum.ca
- Car Seat Safety | Latched Support
- Substance Use, Pregnancy, and Healing | Birthing the Magic Collaborative
Intimacy & Relational
- Love Thyself Conference: Conflict Resolution | power dynamics, non-violent compassionate communication, defense mechanisms, accountability | Lola Jean + expert speakers
- Preventing and Responding to Intimate Partner Violence | Reproductive Health National Training Center
- Open Smarter: Conscious Relationship Design | Dr. Zhana Vrangalova
Self, Spirituality, & Shadow Work
- Love Thyself Conference: Trauma Healing | risk awareness, trauma healing, kink as a healing modality, rituals & reiki, creating self-intimacy | Lola Jean + expert speakers
- Seduce Your Shadow: Shadow Work Ritual Intensive | Lenore Black
- Connect with Your Higher Self, Live with Your Heart, Awaken Your Intuition | Higher Self Yoga
My Work in the World
Presented Workshops & Talks
- Feeling Into the Inner Erotic | presented talk & conversation | the feels, NYC
- Self Love and Sex Magic | Feeld Talks
- Cyber Sex and Self Isolation | Feeld Talks
- Living Shameless – PRo Sex Panel | New Society for Wellness, NYC
- PlayDate: All Play digital | weekly event host facilitating erotic mindfulness and embodiment practices | New Society for Wellness, NYC
- Unlock Playing with Fire | workshop host | Arya FYI
- Hack Your Sex Life | workshop co-host with Kenneth Play
- Subvert Your Subconscious | 6-week course to transmute shame and subconscious beliefs
- Sex Magic: Your Guide to the Best-Kept Secret in Sensual Self Care | ebook
- The Pleasure Provocateur | podcast host
Book Contributions & Interviews
- Love Around the World | interviewed for book and documentary film | on Prime Video, Apple TV, and Gaia | by Davor Rostuhar
- It’s Called “Polyamory”: Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships | book contributor | by Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles
- Sex Hacks | book contributor | Kinkly
- Sexual Health Magazine | featured sex educator, interview of the month, p. 42
- How I Founded Slutty Girl Problems | Cosmopolitan Magazine
- Exploring Queer Identity & Being “Queer Enough” | bi.org interview
Selected Media & Thought Leadership
- USA Today | 6 Steps for Keeping Your Sex Life Healthy | print
- The Guardian | The Best Sex of My Life
- Rolling Stone | BDSM for Everyone: The Best Beginner-Friendly Toys to Explore Your Kinks
- Vice | Banks Have the Power to Ruin Your Sex Life
- Bustle | What’s More Popular On OnlyFans Than Nudity? Intimacy
- Marie Claire | How “Phubbing”—AKA Phone Snubbing—Is Ruining Your Relationship
- The Body | Comprehensive Sex Education Could Curb Everyone’s Trauma Around Sex
- Scary Mommy | If Your Partner Ever Sex-Guilts You Into Intimacy, This Advice Is For You
- Inside Hook | Do You Actually Know Your Own Implicit and Explicit Sexual Boundaries? You Should
intimacy that feels safe, self-trust that feels solid, and a nervous system that feels like home
Coaching with me isn’t about fitting into someone else’s box. It’s about rebuilding your inner foundation — into one that actually holds you.
It’s about the real work of healing: intimacy that feels safe in your body, desire that feels like it’s yours, and self-trust that holds steady, even through life’s storms.
Your body holds your truth — even when your mind is spinning. So we slow down, tune in, and listen to the wisdom of your nervous system, not just what your mind is trying to fix.
From there, we unravel the stories you were handed about sex, love, identity, and worth, and start building a solid base grounded in who you actually are.
If you’ve felt stuck in survival mode, lost in your relationships, or disconnected from your body — you’re not broken.
We’ll move your Self from dysregulation and distance, into deep, grounded self-connection. A relationship that’s honest, clear, and finally feels like home.
This isn’t just healing — it’s rooting and reclaiming what’s always been yours.
It’s a homecoming to yourself: honoring your story and tending to your nervous system so you can build a life rooted in your truth.
You deserve to feel safe in your body, sovereign in your choices, trusting of your intuition, and deeply at home in your relationships.
Your softness is strength. Your pain has a place. Your power is real. And your embodiment is never too much.
My care honors your complexity and celebrates your nuance.
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create the life + love you crave
I’ll send you powerful practices, soul-stirring insights, and gentle nudges to help you welcome more pleasure, connection, and clarity into your life, one nervous system-safe step at a time.
grow deep self-love and grounded self-confidence
illuminate subconscious scripts, honor your truth, and harness your power
learn concrete tools to overcome doubt and live from embodied, empowered authenticity
expand pleasure and intimacy with compassionate communication and desire exploration
Before I became a somatic relationship coach and doula, I founded Slutty Girl Problems, a platform that gave voice to the raw, complicated, and often taboo challenges of sex, identity, and connection. Since then, I’ve spent over a decade helping people navigate dating, desire, mental health, healing after harm, and the lifelong process of coming home to yourself.
I’ve lived through my own dark nights of the soul: navigating assault, mental health challenges, abusive relationships, pregnancy release & loss, and identity shifts as I explored my queerness, kink, and non-monogamy in a culture often saturated in slut-shaming.
I’ve learned how to sit with pain, and alchemize it into an empowered sense of Self.
This work isn’t theory to me. It’s deeply lived, embodied experience.
what people are saying
Lorrae has helped me to deepen my experience of love, pleasure, passion, and intimacy, and normalize the more “taboo” aspects of my sexuality so I could explore them. She’s empowered me to let go of stigma and shame so I can confidently show up and embrace my true self.
Working with Lorrae has been the cornerstone of the huge shifts I’ve made in my personal transformation, and I can finally say that the life and love I have always desired no longer feels like a distant, foreign dream. It’s right at my fingertips.
Lorrae has helped uncover and heal old wounds that I didn’t even know were stalling my growth. She has supported me to create a life by my own rules, not anyone else’s, by tapping into my intuition. Her tools have set me on the path to becoming the person I’ve always wanted to be.
Lorrae Bradbury is a somatic practitioner, intimacy & relationship coach, and abortion & full-spectrum doula based in Philadelphia. She is the founder of Slutty Girl Problems and The Pleasure Provocateur podcast.
Her work sits at the intersection of nervous system healing, intimacy coaching, and body reclamation for sensitive souls seeking wholeness, healing, and embodiment. With over a decade of experience supporting folks through trauma, heartbreak, identity transitions, and relationship shifts, she offers grounded support for those craving pleasure, clarity, and more honest love.
She’s currently working toward her certification in Somatic Experiencing and integrates that study into every layer of her coaching and doula care.
She is a Certified Abortion & Miscarriage Doula through the Colorado Doula Project, postpartum doula in training through Birthing Advocacy Doula Training, graduate of Rae Halder’s somatic trauma resolution + nervous system repair program, and has spent 4+ years as a Somatic Experiencing client actively integrating this work.
Lorrae holds a B.A. in Psychology with research emphasis in attachment and relational patterns, and a Minor in Women’s & Gender Studies, with a focus on the intersection of media, culture, and sexuality, including how systemic messaging impacts our sense of personal agency and erotic identity.
Her expertise has been featured in USA Today, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Glamour, VICE, and many more.
For inquiries, contact press@sluttygirlproblems.com







